Having someone to love, adore you and be your best friend in a relationship is everybody’s dream. You may not have that in your relationship at the moment and to my knowledge, this might because your approach to dating is wrong. Let’s take a ride through some few tips that helped me better my relationship and I hope it will help you grow a strong and healthy relationship.
√ Take it easy: Too often we get caught up in fear-based needs to control our partner. This pull becomes a destructive compulsion that corrodes the integrity of the relationship. It replaces respect and compassion with anger and resentment. It destroys the quality of our lives and over time, the relationship.
Typically, when a relationship is under stress, one of the partners asks for physical space to break the tension. This is suboptimal. The best way to incorporate space is to be themselves and to have their experiences without the other partner trying to control the outcome. Its hard work and takes practice but the rewards are well worth the effort.
√ You are responsible for own happiness: Needing your partner to be a certain way in order for you to feel good- that’s bondage.
Thinking that your significant other must always be in a good mood and give you affectionate attention all the time is wrong – while that may be possible during the initial stage of a relationship, it’s impossible to sustain long-term.
Remember this, You’re responsible for your own happiness. Your partner is responsible for his own happiness.
If you’re looking for someone to complete you-or vice versa-you are looking in the wrong direction for the lasting happiness, wholeness, and fulfillment that you truly seek.
√ Stop waiting and live your life: My advice for singles who are struggling in their search is to look within and ask themselves, what part of their own life still needs work.
When you clean up your side of the street, you make room for a perfectly imperfect person to see you, celebrate you and love you and remember Mr. Right or Ms. Right will not be perfect for you, just as you’ll be perfectly imperfect for him/her.
√ Love yourself: My best quote is love yourself. You can’t love anyone more than your willingness to love yourself. Through this advice, I learned about the importance of caring for my mind, body, and spirit.
√ Don’t put boundaries on others: You can’t put boundaries on someone else-only yourself.
If someone is treating you badly, you can’t change their behavior. But you ask yourself why you accept it and how you can put a boundary on yourself so that you won’t accept it again.
Instead of feeling like a victim of circumstance, I was empowered to reject bad treatment and choose a different person.
Also,(remember that)life is a self-fulfilling prophecy. If you believe you are undeserving of happiness, love, and prosperity, that’s what the universe will give you.
Sometimes love is where you’d least expect it: The hottest, most fun, sexist, interesting, growth stimulating, spontaneous, most romantic, most eye-opening relationships or experiences all were not with people that we thought we would end up with. Just because a relationship has a shelf life doesn’t mean you shouldn’t enter into it.
This advice allowed me to enjoy each interaction for what it was and not try to make it something it wasn’t and at the end of the day, our life is just a conglomeration of memories and I do have many happy memories to think on. This gives me the freedom to experience all life has to offer.
Other good advice:”Always be unexpected”. This doesn’t have to be in grand gestures but predictability in a relationship=boring= death of romance.
Worst advice?”Don’t worry it’ll happen”. If I wanted to learn French, if someone told me “Don’t worry it’ll happen”, how stupid does that sound?! Dating is a skill set like every other and you get out of it what you put into it.
Put in some effort: You simply must put time and energy into dating.
Again you must go about dating the right way-from a positive attitude, an effective online dating profile to behavior on dates and communication with potential partners. If your approach to finding love is waiting for it to just come along,you’re taking a huge risk and will probably be single for a long time. Put yourself out there and you’ll meet the imperfect person perfect for you.